The Importance of the relationship between Grandparents and Grandchildren
The relationship between Grandparents and Grandchildren is special relationships, which mean much more than just childcare and going out for a stroll in the late afternoon. For children these relationships are also a source of education, authority and true companionship.
Grandparents do not have to deal with daily pressure, stress and problems of parenting. That means that the bond between grandparents and grandchildren is completely different to the bond between parents and their children. This does not mean that the bond is less strong – just different!
Researchers from Brigham Young University (USA) examined the role of grandparents and their impact to the life of grandchildren.
One of the results they found out is that grandchildren with a strong bond between them and grandparents are more social, highly engaged and more self-confident. Furthermore, they were recognized as more kind and showing more compassion.
All these results demonstrate that the relationships with grandparents have a long-term impact to the life of grandchildren. The true value is in the companionship of grandparents. They are more kind, experienced and have often more time to solve problems and to give advice. They rarely have to take active part in the daily educational. This simply means that all this time, parents have to spend on educating as parents; grandparents can invest to talk about the family history, and their own life experiences or giving advice and helping through difficult, emotional situations.
It does not mean that parents could not provide all of that too. But children are more likely to have secret talks with grandparents than with their parents. (I guess most of us know that also from own childhood J)
Here are 6 topics, grandchildren can learn the best from their grandparents:
Grandparents do not usually teach their grandchildren on a daily basis and that is the reason why children may be more willing to listen to them about important issues, points of view and personal experiences than their parents saying exactly similar things.
- Unconditional Love
Parents have to be stricter with children that grandparents because parents have to deal with daily problems and stress. Grandparents are more kind and calm than parents and because of that they are important confidants to their grandchildren. The lesson children learn (from the kindness of their grandparents) is that they can make mistakes but they will not stop being loved. This provides children with self-confidence and implements unconditional love to their own way of living.
Grandparents often grew up in very difficult time periods as during the great Depression or WWII. They grew up in times of great hardship and difficulties and got strong through this. They learnt to live in dignity and love and were thankful of what they had – even if it was not much. This sense of resilience is a very important lesson for children to learn.
- Family history
Grandparents are holders of the family’s story because they knew people and family members that parents of a child didn’t. They are further also holders of many family stories, which happened and parents might have forgotten. Because of that grandparents are great storytellers. Animate them to tell stories to their grandchildren.
Parents have to teach so many different lessons, have to solve daily problems and overcome many stressful situations. To teach being thankful needs calm moments. Grandparents are more likely to show your children, what gratitude means. Why is this important? Studies have found out that gratitude is one of the best and most sustainable ways to build a happy and healthy life.
- The importance of the family
Nothing is more important than your own family. A family can consist of cousins, grandparents, aunts, uncles etc. – or also lifelong, close friends. The importance of these long-lasting, never-ending relationships are thought the best through the kindness and calmness of grandparents. This relates strongly to unconditional love for each other. In fact, unconditional love is the main piece of successful relationships either with friends or family.
Grandparents are an important source of power for their grandchildren. And to strengthen this bond is one of the best thing you can give your kid – because it is a gift for a lifetime!
And let’s be honest – it is also cool to have sometimes quality time as parents alone J
Enjoy your day:)
Ben & Emma